Rape Narratives: How Far Have we Come.

It is 2015 and I find it quite shocking that rape is still somehow the women's fault.  This is a simplistic sentence, I know, but from all the readings this week, we are still talking about what women can do or not do to protect herself from being raped.  It never seems to be about the perpetrators.  We are given safety rules that have proven to not work, we are judged on our clothing and past behaviour, we are told that it is inevitable because men have penises so they will rape, we are told rape is a script so me must break it, and backlash feminists tell us that feminism is the cause of our "perception" of being raped. I found this a little heartbreaking, in 2015, the narrative about rape is still about the women, there is almost an absence of perpetrators or they are somehow portrayed in a sympathetic light when one case of a wrongful rape case is brought to light.  In the Steubenville case in the States, I still remember when the perpetrators were found guilty how the female reporter talked about "the poor boys" and how their lives would now be ruined.  Not about the victim, how her life was actually ruined because of the incident, during the trial and after the verdict.  This narrative is still quite entrenched, it always seems to be a variation of the "poor boys".
When I read about the backlash feminist, something I was not very familiar with, I have to say it left a bad taste in my mouth.  Again 2015, and it seems to me we are going backwards.  So, apparently women have been brainwashed by radical feminists and it is really not rape "Victims in fact owe their victimization not to the experience of rape but to a feminist  propaganda that has brainwashed women into thinking of themselves as victims"(Mardorossian 748); because that's what all women want to be:victims.  I found Roiphe to be the most distasteful "Rape is only one aspect of this game that has been misnamed as a crime and should be returned to its original and healthy definition"(748).  Really, rape has a healthy definition? This is something new to me.  What I find quite sad is how some women are following this narrative and thinking that their experiences were just an unfulfilling sexual experience.  The good to come out of all this is that author states "Indeed, this focuses us to acknowledge that there is no homogeneous standpoint among rape victims that is available in an unmediated fashion"(750).  This is important because the lack of a concrete theory of rape has opened up a vacuum for backlash feminists who filled with seemingly popular garbage that is being accepted by victims and popular media.  That is why we desperately need a cohesive approach on rape and rapists that does not somehow always bring it back to the victim not doing what she was supposed to do protect herself according to some ridiculous theory.